Hello, recently I have developed strong feelings for an old friend and those feelings have been returned. We have gone out on a couple of dates and we have even kissed.
There are a couple of issues surrounding this relationship that I am having issues with. The first one is that she just got out of an abusive 2 year relationship. I realize that I may be a rebound, but for some reason I have this feeling that we are sharing more than that. I am there for her when she needs to talk and I give her advice when she needs it. Do you think that is the right thing to do?
Second, her best friend is my ex-girlfriend, but we haven't dated for about 4 years; I guess her friend has developed feelings for me again, but I am not returning those feelings. I just want to be friends.
Should I talk to my ex-girlfriend about this issue (with the permission of the girl that I currently have feelings for of course) or should I leave it alone?
The girl that I have feelings for and I, have talked about this and she has come to the conclusion that it is just to much "drama" for her right now, and she just wants to be friends for now.
I told her that was fine, but I want to "keep the door open" once she has worked out her issues. She said ok and that she agrees because "you never know what is going to happen in the future."
Two questions on this subject. The first is the comment - "you never know what is going to happen in the future"; should I take that for face value or should I take that as "it's not going to happen, but I don't want to hurt your feelings?"
Second if I do take that for face value, how do I keep our relationship from getting to the point where we are too good of friends, that would keep us from pursuing a more intimate relationship.
I know that this sounds discombobulated, but if you could give any advice on this I would really appreciate it..
Thank you
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